Monday, September 6, 2010

*~* When you wish upon a star *~*

This Labor Day weekend was going to be lovely all along. I knew this. Three days off to spend time with Tony and my boys. Sunshine for most of the days too. Saturday evening, after spending time with wonderful friends, I came back to the house and just relaxed! It was great. I went upstairs and checked my phone- which if you know me , I'm usually not ever without. I had a wonderful surpise waiting for me.
I had a text message from Teisha, who is my oldest sister. She wanted to know if I would be interested in her coming down to see me for a visit- tomorrow! I jumped up and down and gave a small scream of happiness. Would I like that??!! Of course!
Now, Teisha and I have had a few long chats on the phone and through email. I KNEW i'd like her when i met her in person, but I can't explain what that meeting was really like. Its truly inexplicable. She came to see me Sunday at noon and I had six hours to spend with her. Those six hours felt like six minutes. She and I have so much in common. From our early teens through our adult lives- very similar experiences.

When she got out of that car, let me tell you, I could see the resemblence between us. All of our conversations about our looks did not prepare me for the fact that side by side I can see it. It is like meeting Heather all over again. Seeing in someones eyes and face that you are family. Unless you have been in my situation I guess this sound kind of ,well- silly. Not ever knowing a blood relative to relate your looks too is odd. When you do meet a close relative of course the natural inclination is to compare yourselves. We both talked about how much we looked like our mothers, but Brent must have some affect on our looks because i saw a lot of me in her. (and consequently, vice versa)
My next adventure will be in October. Iwill be heading down to Georgia to spend a long weekend with Brent and Diana. There I will get to meet my aunt Erdine and her husband Joe. The circle of family is expanding. I love this! As an only child growing up I wished upon a million stars for a sister. The universe does listen sometimes. Now I have four lovely women who share my blood , DNA, and my heart
Above :My oldest sister Teisha and I meeting for the first time September 5th 2010 (age 39)

Above: my youngest sister Heidi and I meeting for the first time. August 15th 2010 (age 27) Above: My sister Heather (age 32)

Above: 1999? Jesika at the top, Heather, My Mom Pat, Me . Jesi(age 35)


  1. I just got off the phone with you. You pestered me, in a sweet sisterly way,to write something. I love the picture of the tree where we had lunch.I can relate it to the experiences in your life. This tree has a strong and true base, which is your parents who raised you. It grew tall and reached for the sun just like you did. All those beautiful branches are the branches of your family. I am proud to be a part of your beautiful tree.

  2. It was a lazy Sunday at the end of July when my Dad showed up at my house unexpected.The reason it was so surprising is I live in Maine and Dad lives in Georgia. He told me he was on his way up north to visit with my aunts.

    Dad and I went out on my back steps and sat in the sun and talked while my dogs played. Dad pulled out his phone and showed me a picture of him with standing next to a women with his arm around her shoulders. Dad asked me if this women looked familiar to me. I looked at the picture and thought to myself, am I supposed to know her. Is it a cousin or someone I knew when I was young. I told Dad that I did not recognize her. He proceeded to tell me that this women was my sister Jodi and that she had just found him. He also told me that he had met her on his way up.

    The next part of the conversation was the difficult part. He told me that Jodi is two years younger than me. He also asked me what I thought. I didn't know what to think with all honesty. It was to much to injest all at once.Without getting to personal, I will just say that it brought up some personal feelings that had nothing to do with Jodi that I had not dealt with. I knew that before I could begin to make room for her in my heart I had to resolve those feelings.

    Partially in shock and being curious I looked at her profile picture on facebook. I must have looked at it a dozen times over the next week or so. I don't remember which one of us asked the other to be a facebook friend. We started talking on facebook and then the phone. The first time we talked on the phone we talked for about 3 hours. It was wonderful. We discovered that we were similar in so many ways and different in others.For the next month we wrote back and forth on facebook and talked on the phone some learning more about each other.

    The begining of September Jodi and I had been talking about wanting to meet in person. I was starting back to college along with working and she was busy with work and family. It seemed as though it would be quite a while before we could meet.

    September 4th I looked on the internet to see how long it would take to get to the town she lives in. It said it was about 5 hours. I looked at my husband and said I am going to meet my sister tomorrow. I called Jodi that night to see if she was busy the next day. She told me that the boys had games,but we could work it out.

    I arrived at the ball field at around noon. When I stepped out of my car and saw Jodi it was one of the most amazing moments of my life! For the first time in my life I was looking at someone who looked like me and was my sister. All my life I wanted siblings. I was absolutely thrilled when Heidi came along and when my brother was adopted.

    I want you to know you are one of the best surprises in my life. You are such a beautiful women both inside and out. You are strong and have overcome what some might have considered impossible odds. You have a wonderful husband and 4 wonderful young men! I love the fact that I am a Auntie X 5 now.

    I look forward to having the rest of our lives to get to know each other.

    Love your sister,